Love and dushevnom zdorovѣ. Robin. Well, odnim znacheniy out of words "Love" is stremlenie unto the vicinity. But proximity can be understood in two ways. This mozhet be naslazhdenie tѣsnoy connection or dependence, a feeling so strong affection unto another chelovѣku what shall we do it is difficult to bez. For nekotoryh people it mozhet mean even sliyanie, constant need drug unto drugѣ and stradaniya otsutstvii unto another, that is, of course, vedet unto possessiveness and jealousy.
Dzhon. And udivitelnago in 'Love unto etih zdorovyh semyah? [...]
Robin. happiness that prinosyat ih otnosheniya is for nih luxury podarkom. Therefore ih rest of their lives is not poisoned strahom failure, anxiety about tom, kak they shall live, if poteryayut his partner. And, of course, more chѣm chelovѣk enjoys life and chuvstvuet uvѣrennost unto sebѣ being odin, tѣm bolѣe interesting person he shall become, and he shall tѣm bolshim mozhet podѣlitsya with svoim partnerom at slѣduyuschey vstrѣchѣ. [...]
Dzhon. Takim obrazom, chѣm more you "need" unto drugih lyudyah, tѣm tebѣ have more control ih?
Robin. Razumѣetsya. And naoborot: chѣm bolѣe you uvѣren unto its self-sufficiency, less tѣm tebѣ necessary to control the partner. You can simply enjoy the drug drugom, vmѣsto In order to test oschuschenie needs and unrest on tom, you did receive what they want. Zatѣm it udovolstvie it shall be unto you oboih support and give more uvѣrennosti at razlukѣ. [...]
Dzhon. But wait a minute, Robin. If grief - it is a natural chelovѣcheskaya reaktsiya the loss and sposob survive it, as thou distinguishes such sadness ... ot mercy unto itself sebѣ?
Robin. grieving, you accept the loss. You do not bѣzhish ot estestvennyh stradaniy, kotoryya it prichinyaet tebѣ and think more about the tom who poteryal, not sebѣ. You let stradaniyu vliyat you, izmѣnyat you. Bb standing last kontsov it otpuskaet you. And naoborot: you feel pity unto sebѣ when
not accept the loss. Vmѣsto to allow chuvstvam izmѣnit
you , you want to
mir izmѣnilsya; you want to make clocks go nazad, kak though the loss was not.
Robin Skinner, Dzhon Kliiz. "Life and kak unto her survive." MA, Univ psihoterapii Institute, 2001, p. 15, 16, 17, 22.